| Things are really going well for you. You are bright, energetic, attractive and ambitious and have a wonderful family that you are proud of. There is only that one tiny little thing that bothers you. YOU WEIGH 10 OR 20 OR 30 POUNDS TOO MUCH AND IT IS DRIVING YOU CRAZY. You complain about your weight all the time and are frustrated beyond belief that you weigh so much. However, no matter what you do you are unable to permanently weigh what you want to weigh. Oh sure, from time to time you go on a diet and struggled and “lost” the 10 or 20 or 30 pounds, but somehow you always gain it back. You have even taken up a serious exercise regime but your weight doesn’t change. This “weight problem” has become your nemesis. It is just killing you and you don’t know what to do. How can that be? You’re intelligent. Why on earth did you gain back weight you were sure you had “lost”? Why is it that no matter what you do you are stuck at a weight you absolutely hate? Well, you’ve come to the right place. The first thing you have to do is to confront your personal reality. (You should read Chapter 5 of our book) The simple fact is that you have become emotionally comfortable weighing what you do. You have been trying to satisfy your emotional needs with food and this is what you ended up weighing. You don’t want to hear this. You think it is nonsense. You say that you are very uncomfortable at your present weight. Anyone who thinks you are comfortable weighing what you do must be insane. Not so fast. Why do you think you always end up at the same weight? It isn’t an accident. Why couldn’t you permanently weigh 10 or 20 or 30 pounds less once you dieted? On paper it would have been the easiest thing in the world to do. Why did you put enough food in your mouth to cause yourself to gain back all that weight? You have to face the fact that you did it intentionally. The simple reality is that you were emotionally uncomfortable weighing less than you do. That is why you gained the weight back. You should take the time to relive your “weight loss” and how and why you gained back all that weight. When you were gaining all that weight why did you stop where you are? Why don’t you weigh 10 or 20 pounds more than you do? You don’t because you wouldn’t be emotionally comfortable weighing more than you do. Everyone, without exception, weighs what he or she is emotionally comfortable weighing. That is exactly why everyone says that “keeping the weight off” is so difficult. If you were emotionally comfortable at the lower weight you would have had no difficulty staying at that weight permanently. (Continued on the SEVENTY-SECOND DAILY EXPERIENCE) |
