| Everyone has a different way for you to “lose weight”. However, in order to really understand how to do that you first have to understand why you gained weight you didn’t want to gain. Here’s your real problem. You knew you were gaining weight but you continued to put an amount of food in your mouth that you knew, for sure, would cause you to weigh more. You didn’t want to weigh more. You knew it was going to make you unhappy but you did it anyway. O.K. it’s time to come clean. Why did you put all that food in your mouth? No, you can’t avoid this question. You really have to answer it. You don’t have to tell anyone but yourself but you must tell yourself. No fibbing here. Tell yourself the truth. Why did you put all that food in your mouth and make yourself unhappy? After all, this is something you did alone. No one forced fed you. No one threatened you with bodily harm if you didn’t “eat” all that food, so why did you do it? The fact is that you put all that food in your mouth because it was something you felt a need to do. You simply had to do it. You knew you were hurting yourself, but you did it anyway. What that means is that your need to put all that food in your mouth was greater than your desire not to gain weight. You can tell that this was not a logical, intellectual decision. It was an emotional decision. It really wasn’t even a decision. It was just something that you felt that you absolutely had to do. What you were really doing was trying to satisfy an emotional need. What was the emotional need? It could have been anything. You may have put food in your mouth because you were under pressure, because you felt tension, because you were anxious or because having the food in your mouth made you feel better. It really doesn’t make any difference what the emotional need was. The fact you have to deal with is that it was more important to try to satisfy that need even though you knew you would weigh more as a result. You’ve heard the expression, “comfort food”. Well, why do you think people call those foods “comfort food”? Because those foods have an emotional component: they make you feel better. That’s why. That’s why you weigh too much. You have been eating (e.g. putting food in your mouth) for emotional reasons. It isn’t the foods’ fault. Don’t even think about blaming anything or anyone, including yourself. The reality is that you couldn’t help yourself. Emotionally you had no choice. You had to put all that food in your mouth. Don’t believe the so-called “experts” when they want to blame others. They don’t understand the problem. Your weight, whatever it is, is nobody’s fault. We’re not in the blame game. You will solve your own problem and will no longer have to eat for emotional reasons. Then you will be able to weigh whatever you want to weigh. |
