| Are you still eating the way you used to? The way of eating that has caused you to weigh 30 pounds too much and made you unhappy? Why are you doing that? Have you been in contact with your Emotional Need For Food recently? If not, why haven’t you? Are you afraid of the emotional feelings that cause you to eat the way you do? Are you concerned that you won’t be able to eat the foods that make you feel good? Are you afraid of what will happen to you if you don’t get to eat your favorite foods? Are you afraid of success? After all, once you stop eating for emotional reasons, you may not want to eat the foods you depend on now. Is that a problem? Is that what is keeping you still eating the same way? You understand the problem intellectually. That wasn’t really very difficult. But you have found that you still feel those emotional needs. That’s not unusual. If depends on how strong your emotional need for food is. Some people can eliminate those needs simply through an intellectual understanding of what they have been doing. It hasn’t worked that way for you. You understand why you weigh 30 pounds too much, but you haven’t been able to do anything about it. So now you have to understand your needs emotionally. You have to feel the emotional needs tugging at you to keep eating all that food. You have to feel the negative emotional reactions that you get when you don’t get to eat all the foods you have come to rely on. So, let’s get on with it. You have to put yourself through the experience of not eating the foods you feel you must eat and feel your emotional reactions. You have to feel the anxiety or nervousness or feeling of deprivation. Those feelings are keeping you weighing 30 pounds too much. You don’t need the food. You need to stop those feelings. That’s what you are using food for. Pick any situation you like. Pick any food you like. Then don’t eat the food. Do it over and over. You may have to do that to isolate your feelings. You will see that you experience the same feelings each time. Get to know those feelings. Get used to them. You will find that you can predict them. Watch them come each time you don’t eat the food you feel you must eat. After a while you will find that not eating the food will not cause you to have those feelings. Once those feelings go away, as they will, you will find that you no longer have to eat the food, or the amount of food, that has caused you so much unhappiness. You will be able to weigh what you want to weigh. |
