| If an overweight person came to you and asked you to help him (or her) lose weight, what would you tell him? After all, you’re kind of an expert. You’ve been on ever diet ever invented and you know all about diets. You like to think that you know what “works” and what doesn’t “work.” So what would you say? Yes, you know that you’ve failed on diets and you still weigh 30 pounds too much, but now you’re called upon to help someone else. It’s a whole different game. You’re not trying to lose weight. You’re trying to help someone else “lose weight.” Are you going to refer that person to a new diet or a new diet book or a new exercise routine or the latest fad? Can you think of anything? You’re stumped. Don’t know what to say? Cat got your tongue? Its kind of flattering to have someone come to you for help when you’ve been unable to help yourself, isn’t it? The problem is that you can’t think of anything to tell him. You know, if you can’t think of anything to tell that person than you don’t know what to do yourself. Sure, you can give him the standard advice of eat moderately and get some exercise. But you know all that and it hasn’t done a thing for you. So you wouldn’t want to waste anyone’s time with the same old saw. Actually, this person also knows that. So does everybody on the planet. You see the problem. You don’t know what to tell someone else because you don’t know what to do yourself. Realistically, you know that whatever you tell this person it’s not going to help him weigh one pound less. You know he is stuck, just like you are. The problem is that you can’t weigh less on a permanent basis. The problem is that you can’t eat less on a permanent basis. No matter what you do you always go back to 30 pounds too much. Everybody has the same problem. You are emotionally comfortable weighing what you do, even though it’s 30 pounds too much. That’s why you can’t weigh less or eat less. You become emotionally uncomfortable every time you try, so you revert to the weight you say you hate. If you want to weigh less on a permanent basis you have to eliminate the emotional factors that make you “comfortable” at a weight that is killing you. Just stick with the Process. You will be able to weigh what you want to weigh. |
